Dad can, dad can …
The culture of motherhood and the lifestyle of young mothers change significantly due to the emergence of new needs for children, new available information about parenthood and opportunities.
Moms communicate, develop, build their business, create communities, organize thematic meetings. The big role of mother is obvious. And along with this, little is said about “popes”. About their participation in the life of the baby and the role in education; that the life of a man and the relationship of spouses also change dramatically after the appearance of a child in the family.
It is scientifically proven that for the full upbringing and development of the baby, the role of the pope is very important. First, dads are more creative. Young mothers spend a lot of energy on small household chores, but dad, even after a hard day’s work, happily switches to active games with the child – which makes the kids happy, allows the man to establish closer contact with the child, and rest for a bit. Secondly, it is impossible to diminish the importance of physical strength – to lift an already grown up child in your arms, to arrange a game with him in a “little plane” or a “horse” – this is given to a man much easier physically. Thirdly, contact with the father is important for the development of the child’s speech apparatus – usually men say with short and clearer phrases that it is much easier for a baby to learn.
Changing the standards of education. If earlier it was believed that the role of a man in a family is limited to financial investments, today many psychologists and young dads themselves say that the most important role in the life of a man is the role of husband and father, and no career success is worth it. first years of life of your own child.
How can a man prepare himself to successfully cope with the most important mission of his life – raising a child? If a woman has 9 months of pregnancy and a changed hormonal background for this, then fathers have a little more difficult. It is even more difficult to cope with the fact that inevitably changes the relationship in a couple – the attention of the wife switches to the newborn, to which many men are not ready – 70% of divorces occur in the first year of the couple’s first child. How to simultaneously ensure the competent upbringing of the child and maintain harmony in the relationship between parents?
Against the background of these issues, there is an urgent need for a serious discussion of the role of the father in the life of the child and the family as a whole. One of the ways is to share your experience, personal history with like-minded people.
For example, Baby Sensory Club (1), a club of young active moms, calling to fight the fact that mom needs to sit with a small child at home and avoid socialization, also supports the active position of dads and holds various activities that reveal all aspects of paternity – material, physical, and, most importantly, psychological. At one of these events, the round table “Dad in the Big City”, the participants, among whom were
Irina Mamaklab – head of the largest Instagram community of mommies mama.club, Vasily Soltan, head of the Multidisciplinary Center for Development and Psychology “How cool”, author of an instagram-diary about fatherhood and father of twins Alexander Shmelkov, psychologist, father of 5 children, the eldest of whom 20 years, and the youngest – only 2.5 months, Peter Pavel Surkov. The presenter of the round table was Pavel Zanozin – TV presenter, sports commentator, young dad. What all the speakers were unanimous about was that there are no “publicly available” secrets for properly building family relationships, each has its own secrets of family happiness, but in order to find them, you need to talk as much as possible with each other. As for the participation of dads in raising children – everything is also individual here – yes, this participation is necessary, but how active it should be and how to distribute responsibilities between parents is up to them.
